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Post by pilotobvious on Feb 16, 2014 22:55:00 GMT -6
So are any of you guys good at public speaking? Or do you have experience? Any tips to help me out so I don't freak out? I have a demonstrative speech coming up in English. I think I'll be fine. I know my topic, and I know my topic pretty well. (How to animate a bouncing ball.) I have awesome visuals planned. I don't think time will be an issue. It has to be at least three minutes, but I know I'll take a lot longer. There is no time limit. It's just a matter of enunciating myself. I need to speak clear. I don't want the jittery voice that comes with nerves. That shaky voice where people pity you for getting up and speaking. I've heard practice, practice, practice, and more practice works. I have a friend who will help me in study hall. Is there anything extra I need to do? Also... I'm going to be valedictorian for graduation... which means I have to get up and read a lovely speech in front of hundreds of people. Holy cow it freaks me out. More so than the presentation (I'm assuming that's logical. hahaha) So I pretty much have to get comfortable with the idea of public speaking. I'll be able to read my speech then, but I don't want to have my head tucked into my notebook the entire time. My friend suggested humor... which I think would help me. But is there anything specific I can do to stop thinking about nerves? I had a bad experience with public speaking earlier this year at National Honor Society. I had to read into a microphone and I thought my voice sounded like crap, so I got really nervous and my voice started to shake. I wasn't nervous going into it. But one of my dad's friends said I sounded like I was about to cry. Even though I wasn't. QnQ I also didn't practice at all for that. I thought winging it would be totally cool. And on another note, when I stepped away from the microphone and had to say stuff to the inductees, I did that perfectly fine. Any form of advice would be fantastic. Maybe it will help others too!
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Post by Kisaka on Feb 17, 2014 0:06:27 GMT -6
Oh I completely understand about being nervous and shaky about public speaking! This isn't *completely* the same, but pretty recently I was the announcer for a cosplay contest at a convention. It probably didn't help that before I went up on stage, things were ill-prepared, I was left alone to do a lot of last minute changes and preparation, and I was stressed and worried about lots of things. But when I went up, I judged myself a lot and stammered, said a couple last name's wrong and when I'm nervous I try and make really dumb humor that's not actually funny. So needless to say I felt like an idiot, but to help get rid of the nerves (I blame my extreme amount of stress prior to the event and it not actually getting prepared correctly) what helps me, is I'll stare out into the crowd and tell myself it's not a big deal.
I know that probably sounds dumb, but it helps. I look at all the people, and even if it's quite a bit, they all might be expecting a lot, it's not that big of a deal. Everyone has their slip ups and if I mess up a few people will giggle and it'll be because they're enjoying themselves, not because I'm a screw up. I'm an optimist so I try and look on the bright side of things, so even if I have a little hard time, at least one other person will enjoy themselves, and I'm trying my best so it'll be okay.
So that's my two cents! I hope it helps! ;u;
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Post by pilotobvious on Feb 17, 2014 12:03:07 GMT -6
I think it's pretty much the same. That sucks that you were nervous, but I'm glad you were able to overcome it. That's a good perspective on this situation. I've thought about looking just above everyone's heads too. It's nice to take things in an optimistic point of view. I'll have to keep that in mind! Thank you!
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Post by Kisaka on Feb 17, 2014 19:52:57 GMT -6
Thanks!
Yeah I always feel weird for where to look so I usually decide to look blankly into the crowd in about 4 different areas. I purposely choose not to look at anyone just at the chairs or random things. It's weird to get eye contact with someone in a sea of people??
You're welcome :3
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Post by Nuciferyne on Feb 18, 2014 16:42:06 GMT -6
I've always suffered from social anxiety, so I know all too well how nerves can wreck it. You're already off to a good start being confident on your subject and not being so nervous. I had to speak in front of hundreds of people a few times in my life, so I'll share what helped me get positive results. Presentations for class aren't usually as nerve-wracking, because everyone has to do it themselves, so usually they're all going to be a bit more empathetic about it. (I'm assuming it's a class thing and not just a selected rep?) So keep that in mind! Let yourself be yourself-- you want to crack an appropriate joke in there, go for it. It needs to be comfortable for you so it will come out natural and less stiff. That will help you speak more naturally and less fast paced/nervous sounding. Also, as you said, practice it so you're familiar enough to not need to reference your notes so much. In general, for public speaking tips (like for your valedictorian speech), there's obviously a bit more to it. When I was in HS I was the student advisory representative for my grade for two years... which for our school was like... hmmm. Well, in short, I was the "voice" for our needs. So I had to stand in front of the faculty and school board a handful of times. I was soooo nervous, because there were cameras and everything. But, it went over well, because before each meeting I would spend a good while psyching myself up! It sounds silly but it helped me a ton. We're our own worse enemies/most critical towards ourselves, so if we tell ourselves we're overthinking and that we're going to be fabulous enough, it sinks in. Think of it objectively, too. Would /you/ want to sit and listen to what you wrote? Is it enjoyable enough for what it is? Obviously there has to be professionalism and it has to be on point, but to drone on and on without much to catch attention is... dull. Those who sprinkle a little humor in or are a bit more personal and relaxed tend to get better reactions from the general audience. It sticks in their mind better, too. For the technical side of things, I'm not sure if you've ever heard of the 7Cs of public speaking... but communication's supposed to be clear, concise, concrete, coherent, correct, complete, and courteous. Actually here's a decent article about that with examples: www.mindtools.com/pages/article/newCS_85.htmGood luck, but I'm sure you'll rock it. Edit: Just read Kisaka's advice, it's good advice! XD Something I've had to force myself to learn over the years is to laugh at myself. Find humor in my goof ups, like she said, don't be too critical! I also forgot a huuuuge thing for any form of speaking (but especially in one on one like interviews), MAINTAIN EYE CONTACT. It's a huuuge deal because it exudes confidence and gains trust. But since you guys are apparently nervous about that like I am, stare at the top of their forehead or something so it looks like eye contact to them but you aren't focused enough to lose concentration lmao
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Post by pilotobvious on Feb 18, 2014 17:19:38 GMT -6
Ahhh Ame this is perfect advice. This really helps me a lot. I'm going to keep this information in mind, and look more into the 7 C's of communication. I was specifically considering the entertainment value of my grad speech. I figured the same old thing everybody hears a thousand times would be boring and harder for me to convey. But something a little witty and lighthearted would be easier for me to speak about, plus would retain the audience's attention. Thanks for the advice again, I appreciate it immensely.
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Post by Nuciferyne on Feb 19, 2014 2:54:22 GMT -6
Always happy to help! ^^
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Post by Mechanomics on Feb 19, 2014 3:49:10 GMT -6
Here's my advice:
1. Find a corner
2. Have anxiety attack
I hope that helps.
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Post by Nuciferyne on Feb 19, 2014 8:20:41 GMT -6
Here's my advice: 1. Find a corner 2. Have anxiety attack I hope that helps. *whacks with fan* Stahp
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Post by pilotobvious on Feb 19, 2014 21:48:25 GMT -6
Here's my advice: 1. Find a corner 2. Have anxiety attack I hope that helps. Ahhh, sounds like me. hahahaha I've been hiding by the band room computer looking up speech tips for the past week during my teacher-aid period. I guess I found a corner and had anxiety attacks. lol
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Post by malkamar on Feb 19, 2014 21:58:00 GMT -6
Honestly I find just taking a deep breath and going for it works best. Over thinking leads to stress. Just go and do it.
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Post by pilotobvious on Feb 26, 2014 21:47:08 GMT -6
So I gave my demonstrative speech today. It went pretty well! However, the teacher would audibly let us know when we got to the three minute minimum... by coughing very loudly and obnoxiously (He has a sense of humor and I find it funny!)
But... he forgot to cough for me. hahaha I started freaking out because I thought my material wasn't covering the three minute mark. That was weird because I was fine when I rehearsed to myself. I kept trying to stretch it out and got a little nervous. Then I said, "Screw it, I have nothing else to say," finished it like a boss, and found out I had actually been speaking for 8 minutes.
So maybe it wasn't the best speech in the world and I had trouble with some parts, but it's a step forward from being the introverted person who never wanted to speak a word out loud. I guess you can say I'm on the road to success. Thanks for all the advice, by the way. I really appreciate it!
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Post by Nuciferyne on Feb 28, 2014 15:39:37 GMT -6
He must have been engrossed in your presentation ;D Glad to hear it went well!
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Post by schribbit on Apr 8, 2014 15:52:34 GMT -6
I know you've already done your speech (bravo, by the way!) but I just wanted to put my two cents in because I know you're still going to have to do your valedictorian speech. Ok. I've always been good at public speaking (as long as I have something official to say, such as a report or a script) and even when I was very young I've been good on stage. I don't know why, because I have trouble speaking face-to-face with people sometimes (I find myself very uncool). With that out of the way I will say this- no one is going to care if you say "Happy" instead of "Sad" in a speech. just correct yourself and move on. Some people may giggle a bit but it's probably because they recognize that you make mistakes just as much as they do. Also, being into theatre, there are certain exercises that can be done before heading on stage. I find waving your hands back and forth a lot pushes away the jitters. Having a glass of water beforehand helps, too! That's all I can say, really. I hope anyone reading may find my tips helpful!
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Post by pilotobvious on Apr 8, 2014 19:12:30 GMT -6
Thank you, schribbit! And thanks for the advice! I really appreciate it. I'll keep your tips in mind. Hopefully they work. haha I used to be very quiet in general, but I noticed I'm able to carry on conversations with others more easily now. I have more to contribute I guess, and I actually feel more willing to contribute as well! It's different than being nervous to put in my two cents and feeling relief after saying it. I just feel good all of the time. Granted, I don't know if that will help, but I'll take every bit I can get.
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